Real Talk

This page is dedicated to real genuine conversations. Its intent is to explore, help and share some knowledge and common sense.

June 28, 2022

Let’s talk about human worth

I think everyone deserves the same level of respect. It does not matter if you have three degrees from fancy Universities or have a job as a garbage collector. Your value as a person comes from who you are and how you treat others. You are not stupid or less important if you chose not to go to college or become a scientist. We are different, we cannot all like the same things.

I am not saying you should not be proud about your accomplishments, you should but do not let that define your worth. We do not have the same opportunities. Depending on where you were born or the country you live in the opportunities can be limited.

Society sucks! It creates these stupid standards that puts so much pressure on young adults. Right out of High School they have to figure out their lives. Forget exploring for yourself or trying to figure out what you like, who you are. Quick, pick a career, get a job, work, work, work and then you die.

Who are you as a human? Without your titles, degrees and medals? Are you a good person with high moral standards? Do you have empathy for other who are just trying to make it in this life just like you?

Life is short, we should help each other not step on each other or judge or compare. Everyone deserves respect, understanding and empathy.

Let’s talk about sex

I think we are the only species out there with so many opinions about sex. Modern humans tend to complicate the simple process of connecting with one another physically.

We evolved and civilized and most chose to be monogamous. When it comes to desire, men are more visual while women are more emotional. It is a fact.

Women are emotional creatures. They have to be in order to offer the nurturing environment needed to care and raise children. Men need to keep a clear head for lots of reasons. It’s the balance of the relationship that is important, not a competition. The perfect team.

When it comes to pleasure, it is not up to one or the other, it is a joint experience and it always starts with you. Nobody can read minds. Nobody can feel what you feel.

I will not speak for men since I am a woman.

Orgasm– What is it? What does it feel like? How do I get one?

Sex starts in the brain, pretty simple. If you do not want to be intimate your brain knows, even if you fake it, you will not achieve total pleasure. If you are tired, upset or have a lot on your mind, forget it. Orgasm will not happen. That’s why foreplay is important and having a great partner is a must.

The most important ingredient is relaxation. Mind and body. Make a decision to not think about anything else for a while, it takes discipline but it can be done. You deserve some time for yourself.

The other important factor is knowing yourself. What do you like? How do you like it? Fantasize, explore and have no expectations. If you ask 10 women what an orgasm feels like, you will probably get a few different answers. The pleasure you feel after consuming a delicious meal when hungry, how do you describe that? The feeling of satisfaction is a unique experience and it cannot be explained with words.

Stop expecting, relax and explore. A woman’s orgasm is not a men’s job, please stop blaming men.

Everything starts and ends with you.